Date Night at Market Basket

When did it happen?  When did I become too old to spend Saturday night in a bar or nightclub?  I think it was last summer; Handy and I went to The Old Goat in Richmond to listen to live music.  We cozied up to the bar, ordered a sandwich and some beverages, and watched the crowd arrive for the band.  A good number of lively Richmond-ites sauntered in plus the folks that creep over from Dresden and other towns.

The band set up and there was the “tick, tick, tick” of drumsticks on the cymbal.  And away it went.  We waited for the right moment and the right song and we got up to dance.  There was nothing overtly wrong.  We danced a bit more, finished our dinner, and then called it a night.  Driving home, I said “I don’t think my knees are as springy as they used to be.  Maybe it’s these flip-flops.”

And that was the last time we’ve been out “clubbing.”

There are other things to do on Saturday night.  Portland restaurants are just an hour away and who doesn’t want to join the throngs of foodies and connoisseurs on the quaint city streets to try the latest hip restaurant?

This Saturday, after shoveling like a stevedore in the gardens all day, a trip to Maine’s restaurant capital was out.  So what were Handy and I to do?

Why, date night at Market Basket, of course.

Market Basket

Sure, Biddeford is farther south than Portland, but it’s generally smooth sailing down the interstate at the dinner hour.  And the Market Basket is right off the exit, a bright and shiny location with a “Market Café” right next to the “Market’s Kitchen.”  Every week, there’s a different sub sandwich for $4.99.  This week it was ham and cheese with all the fixings.  Handy and I split it and sat in the café to eat.  We compared our grocery lists and then we leisurely strolled the aisles and did our shopping.  And you know what?  On Saturday night, there are lots of other couples shopping at Market Basket too.

A few years ago, I wrote a blog post about the Market Basket feud.

This year, two documentary movies were released about how loyal non-unionized employees and the stores customers staged a strike and boycott which lead to the return of the ousted CEO, Arthur T. Demoulas, or “Artie T.”  Handy and I went to see the movie with some friends a few Saturday nights ago.  (Yes, the classic “dinner and a movie” date night.)

“The Market Basket Effect” did a good job of outlining the long-standing Greek family drama.  It had a happy ending.  The company didn’t declare bankruptcy and fade off the scene.  Lucky for us we’ve still got a place to go on a Saturday night.

After we loaded up our groceries and got on the interstate for the trip home, we scanned the radio dial and picked up “The Legends,” a little indie station broadcasting from Sanford.  On Saturday nights, they play syndicated recordings of Dick Clark’s “Rock, Roll & Remember” and Handy and I sang along to Herman’s Hermits and the Everly Brothers until the signal faded out as we approached Portland.

Second verse, same as the first.

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Who Told You…

The weather here in Maine this week was glorious.  Green growing grass, budding trees, and blossoms have all been swaying in a gentle warming breeze.  I mowed the lawn for the first time over the weekend and it was surprisingly pleasant with my $20 yard sale push mower.  I finished weeding out the hill garden and I’m preparing the gladiolus bed.  I’ve got seed packets strewn all over the kitchen because this weekend is the “full flower moon” which, according to garden folklore, is the signal to plant.  Astronomers might call it the “blue moon” but I’m calling it the “green moon.”

Tomorrow, there’s a plant sale in Bowdoinham and one in Durham, at the Eureka Community Center.

And even though the sassy daffodils are fading, the gaudily fragrant lilacs are blooming.

All these things are signs that the season’s turned and all’s right with the world.  Life is everywhere.  I considered hosting a “garden tour” on today’s blog.  That would be the “happy blog personae” I strive to present.  You know, the face to the world which says “all is well” and if it isn’t, it soon will be.

My friend texted me on Sunday evening.  She’s a bit of a news hound, following local news with a variety of applications on her computer.  She even had a police scanner back in the day because she lives in the country; I’d often hear the voices in the background when we talked on the phone.  She asked me if I knew the identity of the body found on the Lisbon-Durham bridge Saturday morning.

I did not know anything about it.  I got busy with the week and I put the thought out of my mind.  On Wednesday afternoon, I drove to the post office and stopped for coffee at the local place.  That’s when I found the answer.  Sitting on the drive-through ledge was a collection can with the picture of a handsome 24-year-old man and his young family.  I asked the woman working the window “what’s wrong with Tyler?”  I had just seen him last week, either Thursday or Friday.  He worked at the coffee drive-through or the walk-up window; he’d waited on me several times in the last few months.  Handsome, friendly, and courteous, he seemed to have the world on a string.  I remember thinking “that young man has a great personality; he should get into sales.”

The woman answered “he took his life.”

Yesterday, the local paper reported “the man found dead Saturday morning by the Lisbon-Durham bridge died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound.”

This is the third suicide in our town in less than 2 months; three men in a town of 9,000 residents.  I was acquainted with two of the three and I know the family of the third.  It’s a small town, remember?  As I think about these things, the question running through my mind is “who told you your life didn’t matter?”

It’s an existential question and I have a few theories about who and what might perpetrate the big lie that one’s life doesn’t matter.  It’s the stuff of time, history, philosophy, and theology and none of those topics can be understood by pressing a “like” button on a piece of plastic.  But it’s a question worth pondering because it’s a loss to everyone when three men with something to offer the world listen to the lying voice in their ears telling them their lives don’t matter.

Who Told YouTheir lives certainly did matter.

If you’re in Lisbon Falls on Sunday, May 22 between the hours of 10:00 a.m. and 2:00 p.m., please stop at Aroma Joe’s and buy a coffee or two.  100% of the sales during those 4 hours will go to the young man’s family.

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The Beauty of Everyday

This spring I’ve been overwhelmed by the magnificently beautiful things around me, more lovely than last year.

Beauty in EverydayCreation everywhere.

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Kung Pao Monday

I hate it when Monday morning rolls around and my old computer won’t cooperate with me.  I know, I know…I have the equivalent of the NASA Apollo program in the palm of my hand, but I’m still writing blog posts using a dying Toshiba netbook.

Writers write the way they write.  Me, I can’t write by talking into my Apollo 13 rocket phone.  Maybe someday, but I’m not in that groove yet.  And now, the hour for writing has come and gone in fits and starts and here I am, scribbling my draft (GASP!) with pen and paper.  The sun rises over my hill garden and the completion of that project is so close I can almost feel it.

Readers, I’m going to love you and leave you this morning.  I know it’s been a sparse diet of posts lately.

Kung Pao Garden
Handy made Kung Pao chicken last night.  It was delicious and maybe it will hold you over until I’m back in my writing groove.

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The Season of Hammer and Tongs

Last spring, I got an e-mail from a friend requesting I plant a flower clock.  You can read about it here.  I tossed the intriguing idea around in my mind.  I had the space for it in my backyard.  Then I read this sentence, taken slightly out of the context of the article for this blog post:

“No gardener wants that weed.  It has roots that go down to hell.”

This week, I’ve been weeding out my hill garden.  It’s approximately 70 feet of sloping land that runs down to the street.  It’s filled with Primrose, Hosta, Lady’s Mantle, Columbine, and…weeds.  This house’s former owner, Mrs. Perron, planted the beautiful space, but in the last year she lived here, she was not able to keep up with the garden and weeds started taking over.

When I moved in, it was almost June of 2014 and I made a cursory sweep of the garden to keep up appearances.  I did the same thing in 2015, but it bothered me that slowly, the weeds were winning out in that formerly lovely space.

No more.

This week, I’ve taken the “Johnny Cash Approach” to cleaning it up, working one or two foot segments each day.  Up at dawn, groggily sipping my coffee, I’ve been in the garden by sunrise pulling one weed at a time.

A Garden Segment

It’s the season of exponential growth.

The clock of the flowers is a fanciful idea, but I’ve got to be practical this summer and get that hill garden back into shape.  Time flies by as I type this.

Here’s yesterday’s Columbine, loosened from the long grass and weeds.

Columbine Again

It’s the season of hammer and tongs.

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The Lost Columbine

There is a hill garden on my property; it runs along the road.  This spring will be the first time I’ve really “gotten to it” and analyzed what’s there.

ColumbineIt’s almost sunrise, or the gardening hours.  Tomorrow, I’ll take a break from pulling the weeds from David Brooks’ garden and show you what I’ve been working on all week.

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The Wizard

Last Friday, I wrote about a recent David Brooks’ New York Times piece.  The article was part confession; the author admitted he’d grown out of touch with the average Joe and his neighbors.  Mr. Brooks outlined his plan to better understand the great national “pain” upon the land manifesting in the popularity of Donald Trump.  I contemplated a longer blog post covering each of his six “suggestions” for the nation, but I knew I wouldn’t have the time to research and elaborate my disagreement with him in a powerful and convincing way.

And there was a lot to do on Saturday morning and I forgot all about David Brooks and his suggestions until Uncle Bob showed up with the Wizard.

The fifty year old Western Auto Wizard garden tiller, that is.

The Wizard

My O’Pa bought the Wizard in 1965 following his retirement from the Worumbo.  There was a Western Auto hardware store on Main Street, just a few blocks from the mill.  It’s a hair salon now.  O’Pa walked to the mill every day; maybe he stopped at Western Auto on his way home and admired the tiller, thinking “that’s the first thing I’m going to do when I retire, get myself a Wizard.”

I never thought of my grandfather as being employed because he retired the year after I was born.  He was a man in an old photograph, a fixture in the garden, or a philosopher on the porch, but not an employee although he’d worked at the mill for over forty years.  Before he retired and bought The Wizard, he made extra money tilling gardens for his neighbors with a team of horses.

This year, I’m expanding my vegetable garden and I needed the Wizard.

Handy came over and he helped unload the machine from Uncle Bob’s truck.  Uncle Bob started the job while Handy and I watched.  It was slow going at first, working the tiller through the compacted grass.  Uncle Bob worked on it for about twenty minutes and the ground slowly started looking like a garden.

Uncle Bob and the Wizard

Handy had a boyish excitement about the new tool and wanted to give it a try.  He took a couple of turns and finished the last section.

Handy and the Wizard

“That’s a powerful little machine,” he said when he had finished.

He and Uncle Bob talked about the engine and the carburetor and replacing the old wheels.  It was nothing I understood, except as words in theory.  But as I observed their conversation I wondered what David Brooks had in mind when he said one thing we needed in this county was “a new definition of masculinity.”  He said the “traditional masculine ideal isn’t working anymore.”  He said “everywhere, you see men imprisoned by the old reticent, stoical ideal.”

How had my backyard turned into a prison cell?

Handy and Uncle Bob loaded the Wizard back into the truck and Uncle Bob drove off to his Saturday stoic lunch.  He probably had a pork chop or some chicken with a baked potato and salad on the side.  My new garden is taking shape and Handy will come over today and finish the fencing.  I hope he doesn’t feel imprisoned.  It’s only deer fencing.

Yeah, David Brooks really does need to get out of his bourgeois strata.

Stat!

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David Brooks’ Block Party!

If you’re a regular visitor to this blog, you know I rarely write about politics.  That does not mean I am oblivious to the machinations of men aspiring to be President of the United States, or POTUS.  Handy’s got hundreds of Tee Vee channels; I watch a little bit of news from time to time.  I listen to the radio, I read a local newspaper, and I read news on the web.  I almost forgot Twitter, which I use as my news aggregator.  I “follow” several local news personalities and papers like The Boston Globe and The New York Times.  There are others I follow and this selection of “major media outlets” covers the spectrum from left to right in providing headlines.  Having now established my “credentials” as a news consumer, let us move on to the subject at hand.

On Friday, April 29, David Brooks wrote an opinion piece for The New York Times.  Please read it here.

Putting aside his “feelings” about Donald Trump as the Republican presidential nominee, he says citizens of all stripes need to “step back and take the long view, and to begin building for that.”  He says candidate Sanders and Trump have “reminded us how much pain there is in this country.”  Then he provides evidence of this pain by noting that the suicide rate has “surged to a 30-year high.”

He states that Trump is not the right response to this pain and death.

“The job for the rest of us is to figure out the right response.”

I scratched my head as I read the sentence.  I wondered who “the rest of us” were.  The essay’s introduction implies that there is an “us” and a “them.”  The “them” are killing themselves based on some vague and unknown pain sweeping across the hinterlands; the “us” must find the answers.

Then Mr. Brooks wrote two sentences that blew my mind.  He says “I was surprised by Trump’s success because I’ve slipped into a bad pattern, spending large chunks of my life in the bourgeois strata—in professional circles with people with similar status and demographics to my own.  It takes an act of will to rip yourself out of that and go where you feel least comfortable.”

I could sympathize for a moment; it’s natural to want to spend time with people you enjoy, people with whom you can be yourself…drop an “F” bomb with on occasion and maybe tell them how much you miss smoking cigarettes.  But where is this “bourgeois strata?”  He must mean his suburb of Washington, D.C.  Are there not doormen and cab drivers there?  Barber shops, nail salons, and maybe a Whole Foods?

His comment unleashed more than a few snarky commentaries across social media.  For me, I was most struck by the final sentence of his “bourgeois strata” paragraph.

“We all have some responsibility to do one activity that leaps across the chasms of segmentation that afflict this country.”

I can’t share all the comments I penciled in the margin of my printed copy of the Op-Ed.  “Self-righteous silliness” was one of them, but maybe that was what someone else said about it.  Yeah, there were a few “F” bombs.  I know it’s not ladylike.

I’m sure David Brooks is a perfectly lovely person.  He’s accomplished certain things and checked off many of the boxes of life.  He has an outlet on a well-respected media stage, The New York Times.  I’m sure he has his own personal pain.  But seeing how other people live and understanding their pain is not some charity project or checklist.  I won’t even go into his six suggestions because, to use an overused cliché, they make my head explode.

He ends his article by implying he won’t waste his time on Trump.  He says “the time is best spent elsewhere, meeting the neighbors who have become strangers, and listening to what they have to say.”

This op-ed has swirled around in my head all week and at times, I’ve looked out the window in my office and asked myself “I wonder what Wendell Berry would say about all this?”

Maybe David Brooks is giving a block party this summer in his quest to meet the neighbors who have become strangers.  He could always host a screening of The Seer at The Uptown Theater.  Maybe after the movie, everyone could “meet and greet” over gelato or something, but nothing too formal or planned.

Daffodil

I am snarky and cranky this morning; I should have written another post about daffodils or tulips.  Or maybe a commentary on Martha Stewart’s weeding woes.  Martha, I share your pain.

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A Few More Tulips

This will be my second “full” spring here in this house and garden; for the last two autumns, I’ve planted a few more bulbs.

More TulipsThese are my new favorites.

(P.S.  Happy belated birthday to blog reader Carol, who celebrated one yesterday.  It was lovely to see her in person a few weeks ago!)

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The Daily Grind

A long, long time ago, my friend Jaxon gave me a Christmas present.  Or maybe it was a housewarming gift, when I bought the chicken-cooped sized condominium on Hampton Beach.  Or was it a birthday gift?  The details have faded into the distance but the gift remains…gourmet peppercorns with a grinder.

The Daily Grind

I took it with me when I moved from Hampton to Lisbon Falls and it survived the move from my apartment on the outskirts of town to this house.  When I first started sharing meals with Handy, little did I know he was such a pepper fiend.  But after having a few dinners at his house, I knew my feeble pepper offerings were not going to be adequate.  Handy knew it too because he brought me another kitchen appliance.  A coffee bean grinder.  Which, as you know, can be used to grind all kinds of things besides coffee beans.

The woman who lived most of her adult life without a microwave oven and other counter top cluttering kitchen appliances now has practically all the major contrivances.  This includes a coffee bean grinder, a stand mixer, a food processor, an immersion blender, AND a microwave oven.

Thanks, Handy.

But I can’t throw the gourmet peppercorns with the laborious hand grinder out just yet.  There are still a few peppercorns left in the jar and the grinder is glued on the top.  With my “use it up” Type A ethos, I’ve got no choice but to grind every remaining peppercorn before it heads to the recycling center.  Oh, how it irritates Handy when he sees me bringing out the jar and giving it a few twists.

He gives restaurant servers the same irritated shrug of the head when they pop up table side with their bowling pin-sized implement and ask if he wants some freshly ground pepper.

Today’s the day I finish it off, I’ve decided.  There are less than 100 peppercorns left in the jar and I’m going to keep it with me at my desk.  Every break I take from my work will be devoted to the last of the peppercorns.  If I have to read a long report, I’ll have my eyes and mind glued to the screen while grinding pepper.

A rainy, inside the house kind of day is the perfect atmosphere for “grinding it out.”

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